Men in crisis (middle-age)

    By the time everyone reaches their mid-age they will have experienced some major transition in life such as a new job, a new wife, or a new child. The most commonly known major transition for middle age adults is called by many “midlife crisis,” I call it “finding one’s identity.” The famous psychologist, Carl Jung, calls this the psychological change.”  He further states, that many of our values and beliefs carried in the first half of life we should let go and face the second half unconsciously.  He suggests taking up a creative activity, such as art or writing. 

 

  Who goes through this midlife crisis?  Researchers point out that serious midlife problems are actually experienced by only 2 % to 5 % of middle-aged. Louis Tamir calls this period a deep-seated, self-doubts of confusion.

    Much of the evidence against the existence of widespread midlife crisis seems to me to be compelling.  For example, Costa and McCrae developed a midlife crisis scale that includes items about a sense of inner turmoil, a sense of failing power, marital dissatisfaction, and job dissatisfaction.  When they used this scale in a cross-sectional study of over 500 men ages 35-70, they concluded that there is no particular age when deep depression occurs.     The most effected ethnic group is white males and the suicide rate is higher than other subgroups, which remain high well into old age. One reason this group is affected the most is they are usually well educated and they have more extravagant dreams, according to experts.     Many couples that experience turbulence during this period, studies point to the major cause as being martial dissatisfaction.  Professional counseling seen to become the only variable remedy, couples need to talk it out and avoid the divorce courts. 

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3 Comments to “Men in crisis (middle-age)”

  1. If half of a couple doesn’t want to talk it out, divorce is the only sane option left.

  2. tmulcahy,

    I agree that communication is the biggest problem with marital relationship. Divorce should not be on the table.

  3. Yes, of course! “Crisis” is often too strong a word – what we, like any human being, need is a partner who can accept change and grow with us.

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